You drive a massive metal stake deep into the ground with a chain from it tied to the elephant’s ankle. The baby mammal fights with all her might until eventually giving up and giving in. Soon enough a mindset formulates, she accepts the situation and does nothing to change it.
You know how to restrain her years later as a full grown adult? Use the original stake and chain.
The only thing holding this 10,000-pound mammal back is her belief in the past.
Same is true of you and I.
Do you want help?